Resilience in Rejection
Author: Xindy Frassato
Published: February 1st, 2018
The rejection when job hunting: are you choosing the path to bitterness or are you resiliently working on creating new opportunities?

If you are searching for a new job you might have encountered one of these situations.

Some types of rejections job seekers find along the way

I guess at some point you might have gotten one, some, or all of them . You may even be able come up with more to add to the list; but at the end it’s all about the same: thank you but no thank you.

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1) Let’s start with the “killer” rejection email templates, which are the same for all applicants:

a) The template you’ll get right after you applied. No one even read your resume but your Resume did not match with the keywords on the Applicant Tracking System (ATS), and now you are no longer considered for the position. 

b) After you had the interview you receive the email template to inform you that your interview was unsuccessful, well at least they got to know you but still you are not sure why the interview did not lead to an offer.

c) You applied a few weeks ago, now after weeks of silence you get the rejection template to notify the position has been filled, and once again you are confused since you did not receive a feedback and do not know the reason of this result.

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2) "Ghosting" a very popular “trend” these days and some cases are:

a) After you agreed to a phone screen and then the call never arrives, you think maybe the recruiter took more time in a previous commitment so you reach out and no response ever comes; well my dear candidate you have been ghosted.
b) Yay! You got the interview and you were told you should hear back within two weeks to know the outcome of the interview. And you never hear back from them.

c) Candidate sends thank you note or follows up, no response. And any response will never come.

3) A personal note or call with a brief feedback:  not very common these days, but in my personal opinion this is the best way to provide feedback notifying the outcome of the meeting and why the candidate was not selected.

For example, perceived lack of communication skills; the candidate was so nervous and could not concentrate but after receiving this feedback, now understands what needs to be done in order to be successful in a future interview.
There is always room for improvement, so believe me that any recommendations or tips on what to work on to improve interviewing skills are always welcome!

Bitterness, confusion, discouragement and/or disappointment

After getting one rejection maybe you feel disappointed, then a few more rejections come in and you start feeling confused. 

As the weeks pass by you feel discouraged about the outcome of all the time invested on filling out applications, phone screening, Skype calls and interviews that are not leading anywhere close to landing your dream job.  

What do you plan to do to stop receiving rejections and getting a job offer? Please do not say keep doing the same thing. "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results" quote often attributed to Einstein.

Using resilience to overcome rejection and landing your dream job

The American Psychological Association defines resilience as the process of adapting in moments of adversity or significant sources of stress; and it means "bouncing back" from difficult experiences.

“Resilience is not a trait that people either have or do not have. It involves behaviors, thoughts and actions that can be learned and developed in anyone”.

At this point, after receiving any kind of rejection stop being the victim and take actions. I encourage you to try something new. You could try volunteering for a non-profit in same role you would like to have and use it as practice and also to learn new skills while job hunting.

You need to start networking; LinkedIn has so much potential to reach out to people and you can learn from them and the current market, putting yourself and skill set out there to be seen!

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About Xindy Frassato:  Xindy was born and raised in Valencia, Venezuela;  She received her Bachelor’s degree in Labor and Industrial Relations at Universidad de Carabobo, in Venezuela. She received a Master’s Degree in International Business at Hult International Business School in Boston (USA).
She loves her career, languages, her dogs and traveling. She speaks fluent English and Italian, and Spanish is her mother tongue. Yes, she has taken her dogs, Bianca and Dalilah traveling the world with her. She feels very fortunate to be able to work among many different HR functions within multicultural and international environments. She currently volunteers for a non-profit and helps out within their HR department. She is currently based in Europe.  Find her on LinkedIn here.

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